Ghetto Behavior… Not A Matter of Color

I don’t believe that ghetto behavior is simply a matter of color, nor is it a matter of being raised in an unfavorable environment (neighborhood) in and of itself.  Yet, it’s amazing to  see how we operate, act and react based upon our world view.  Television shows, movie roles, etc. generally perpetuate the stereotypes that we have come to hold as true.  It’s certainly worth pondering.  We can, many times, look to how, not where, we were raised to understand why our behavior is as it is.  My father, for example, was a pretty strict disciplinarian.  For that reason, you would not find us skipping school, disrespecting the teacher, talking in class, fighting, being the loud-mouths of the block or school, etc.  This type of behavior simply was not tolerated.  We understood that “wherever you act up is where you’ll ‘get it.'”  In part, the lack of discipline in the home plays a significant role in the decline of our moral character.  Left to ourselves, we tend to go astray.  I thought about this (ghetto behavior) after a couple of recent incidents at work.  I’ll share one.  We recently had an ice cream social as a reward.  I purchased two ‘tubs’ of ice cream (with ALL the trimmings).  Since I  only had one ice cream scooper, I purchased another one and decided to keep it and not charge the company.  Of course, the ghetto mentality would say, ‘keep it AND charge the company.’  We had plenty of ice cream left so I left both ice cream scoopers and the next day employees were yet enjoying ice cream.  I saw both scoopers before going home.  The next day, however, my old scooper was in the drawer and the shiny, new one was missing. HA!  Really?  Really??  It’s a Sales Office!  Certainly everyone there makes enough to afford an ice cream scooper–it was $5.14!  I was too outdone!  I may have “expected” this in Watts (purposely stereotyping) but I was in OC–snobby OC (again, purposely stereotyping).  Who dared to bring the ghetto mentality to OC?  Out of about 120 employees (2 companies) only 6 are African-American–all professional and 5 of 6 that know the Lord (1 I haven’t had an opportunity to know yet).  The balance of the office is Caucasian, Chinese, Japanese, Samoan, Vietnamese, Filipino, Mexican-American or of Latin descent, and various other nationalities–a true melting pot (just to understand the variety represented).  But really… who brought ‘the ghetto’ into OC?  Someone that feels entitled, someone who wasn’t taught the difference between ‘mine’ and ‘theirs,’ someone with an impoverished mentality (“I’d never be able to buy one of these nice, shiny little gadgets”).  Really? OK… I’ve spent too much energy on this already.  But keep in mind… anyone can be ghetto–it’s not in the color, it’s in the upbringing.  So… if you’re poppin’ out babies, please go sit down somewhere and take the time to raise them properly.  I’m just sayin’…  Thanks for visiting.

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22 Responses to Ghetto Behavior… Not A Matter of Color

  1. veehcirra says:

    Hahaha this is very interesting, I concur with you it doesn’t matter what you look like, but who you really are. I wish there were surveillance cameras and then you could see exactly who took your stuff, now that would be hilarious!

  2. manoahswife says:

    Couldn’t agree with you more! “Anyone can be ghetto–it’s not in the color, it’s in the upbringing.” It’s also in the heart. Theft is sin, no matter how big or small the item taken. We all have a sin problem. Without the blood of Christ, this would be a desperate world indeed.

  3. You are so right. It doesn’t matter how small and that’s the part we have to “get.” Many years ago I would not have considered a pencil or pen theft (at least not an inexpensive ‘bic’ pen, yellow pencil or something). But it really doesn’t matter. I’ve learned to check to make sure what’s in ‘my’ bag is actually ‘mine.’

  4. lydiaa5656 says:

    This need to be said often, specially in today’s so called cultural revision of right on wrong to justify our behavior. Very interesting piece.

  5. Denise Hisey says:

    Well said! Ghetto mentality knows no boundaries!

  6. Brittius says:

    Reblogged this on Brittius.com and commented:
    Magnificent article! Written by a woman that is a Black Conservative Christian. I was a street cop in one of the worst ghettos in America/Planet Earth, and what is stated in the article is very true concerning the mentality. More times than not, I found Good, in a seemingly dire setting of poverty. The people, made the difference. I was born and raised in a cold-water flat on the South Brooklyn (NY) waterfront, and understood Respect, from an early age. Wonderful article.

  7. Reblogged this on The Grey Enigma and commented:
    H/T Brittius the Voracious Reader

  8. sherayx says:

    Great post, only thing is, why do the employee have to be “ghetto”? What does the ghetto have to do with this person taking the scooper? Apparently they r not from the ghetto, so why is everything based on being joined at the hip by a word? There r rich ppl (won’t mention names) who think what’s our’s is there’s. And they never have stepped foot in a ghetto, many ppl in the ghetto r more honest than these rich politicians and bankers. The point I am getting at, is the definition of a word, that has been placed with the many tools for separation by a word, (labeled).
    What’s the difference between a loud kid in the ghetto, as opposed to a middle class, spoiled kid performing a tantrum in Wal-Mart because he/she can’t get a toy? Or a ghetto mom popping them out and have to leave them with an aunt so she can survive or a Wall Street tycoon, popping them out , and send their kids off to boarding school or a nanny raising them? That is low what happened to u, (principle) and u don’t have to be ghetto to go low. PPl need to become aware of the separation and the labeling, this is why we r in a mess now. If things were the way they were suppose to be, no separation would exist and the conquering and dividing would be impossible. All would be equal, but ppl would still be who they r “individually” and that’s what they r “individuals”, no matter where they come from or where they have been, without the joining at the hip by a word to connect their individual action to a group of ppl or place. Not disputing what u r saying, just putting another view, on the table, much luv and peace.

    • Thank you for visiting. This particular article is still alive and noticed, I see. And to the extent that we become aware and begin to eradicate certain behaviors as well as stereotypes, I am grateful. Thank you for your perspectives here. My point is that anyone anywhere can exhibit unacceptable behavior without regard to their living environment. While I didn’t create the word or the definition, I found one of its definitions to be as follows: “Often Disparaging and Offensive. noting something that is considered to be unrefined, low-class, cheap, or inferior: Her furniture is so ghetto!” From this definition, my thoughts were framed. What a wonderful world this would be if we simply considered the next person in our decisions. If we would seek the highest good of the next person, instead of only considering ourselves, each one would be better off. … Paying kindness forward… Many blessings and thank you, again.

      • sherayx says:

        I appreciate ur reply and I concur. but criticizing a person’s couch, and comparing it with where ppl r suppose to “live” (many forced too). Is not only socializing a beings individual taste? What makes something “ghetto” is what I asked? What is that? Just because society molds us into excepting that earth tones r some how “sophisticated” and a bold plaid is “ghetto”? One man’s treasure, is another man’s garbage. Maybe I don’t think in 3D, I just question the labels, because they become a separator of the human race, ppl r ppl, I don’t care if u live in the hood or Hollywood. But I truly can see ur point, many views can be expressed on this topic, thank u again, many blessings and Happy Holidays!

        • I believe we are in agreement. To be clear, the furniture example was a quote from the dictionary definition–not my thoughts at all. I couldn’t agree with you more, one man’s trash is truly another man’s treasure. My brother cleans up all year long on eBay with this concept. He buys a $2 item and people bid until it’s $102… Different strokes for different folks. I think we’d all do well to question and expose the “labels” that society has placed upon each of us. Point well taken. Blessings!

        • sherayx says:

          Thank u for ur reply, we r in agreement, and ur point also well taken. Yeah, ur brother doing his thing, nothing wrong with that. : ) Hope many blessings to u and urs.

        • sherayx says:

          Thank u for ur reply, we r in agreement, and ur point also well taken. Yeah, ur brother doing his thing, nothing wrong with that. : ) Hope many blessings to u and urs.

  9. oldpoet56 says:

    Very good post, thank you for sharing. All that you spoke here I do believe to be totally truthful. Ghetto culture is between the ears, it has absolutely nothing to do with skin color.

    • I like the way you state that…”between the ears”…so true. We need more teaching. We need to raise our children and not have them raise themselves. We must take interest…help us, Lord. Thank you for your encouragement. Blessings.

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