I’ve been discussing with my husband for several years now the best way to help certain people with some very ‘special issues.’ I certainly would like to hear other opinions–although I believe we (hubby & I) agree.
How do you help, or is there any help for individuals whose reality is absolutely only their own and is actually not shared by anyone else? While we are sensitive that there are perhaps some residual emotional and/or mental damages either resulting from serving time in the military some years go or maybe even from birth, we also don’t want to encourage off-based thinking that is not helpful to them. We all have hopes and dreams and much of it won’t actually come true but there’s generally no harm in hoping. I’m all for keeping hope alive. After all, Langston Hughes said, “If dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.” However, I believe that there’s a certain type of dreaming that may actually be counter-productive.
We have a particular friend that insists that God has called them to become President of the US and is actually very sincere–you simply can’t tell them otherwise. They’ve been running since the ’80′s. A few other friends are their treasurer (it would be embarrassing to mention the treasury balance), secretary, etc. for their campaign. It has been my position that these friends are not actually helping by playing along (and I’ve mentioned this)–but I could be wrong. My thoughts are that each year as the individual’s own person funds are depleted (that could be used for everyday living and auto expenses) and as credit card balances rise to finance ‘campaign’ trip expenses, when it ‘s time to retire (and they’re right there), this poor person will have no funds on which to live. I believe that this is the aspect that concerns me most. So, of course, we don’t encourage this behavior–even though this is pretty much all they talk about weekly. There are others that ‘play along,’ saying, ‘President? Oh, that’s nice.’ There have been campaign breakfasts at hotels, etc. with 10 in attendance in a sizable room (10 very nice people who don’t want to cause hurt feelings, mostly campaign members). I (personally) feel that someone should shake them back into reality–as I’d prefer someone let me know before I go broke. Others may feel that they’re too far gone, so it’s better to simply play along and not offend them. Again, I could be wrong but would love to hear your thoughts. Play along? Or try to reason?
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